There are many factors that can positively influence a love relationship and happiness in the relationship: Similar interests, appreciative communication styles, willingness to compromise, time together, tenderness and sexuality, solidarity.
But one of the main factors is self-love. Learning to love yourself is a topic that often gets too little attention when it comes to relationship issues.
Wrongly, because self-love is the basis for giving another person deep love and recognizing this person with his or her uniqueness. And learning to love yourself is possible!
Self-love is the basis for all our happiness. When we love each other, we feel strength, even when everything seems to collapse and life becomes full of meaning. We get rid of envy and other bad feelings, spreading the love for others wherever we go.
But conquering self-love is not always easy as it seems in theory.
The following steps are a great way to treat us with love and care , moving more towards self-love and unconditionality :
1) Don’t compare yourself
There is no one in the world like you, and everyone is having their own experience. Each person has his virtues and qualities, and you also have yours. It doesn’t make sense to look around.
2) Don’t worry about what others think. Live for you
We spend a large part of our lives concerned with keeping up appearances. Even more so at the time of social networks. We are constantly concerned with turning our life into a spectacle for those who see it. We want the approval of other people, we seek applause. And when it doesn’t, we feel frustrated and feel that we are worthless. But never in life will it be possible to please everyone. Ultimately, the most important thing is what you think about yourself. If you believe and are convinced of what you are, it doesn’t matter what other people think about you.
3) Leave the past behind. Forgive yourself
To dwell on the past and our failures can end our self-esteem. What happened is gone. The only thing we can do about it is to learn from our mistakes and strive, every day, not to make the same mistakes again.
4) Don’t seek perfection
Perfection does not exist. Too many perfectionist people always end up unhappy, for never achieving perfection. They live in an endless search. What exists is the possibility of improving even more.
5) Take care
Taking care of yourself, your appearance, your well-being, and happiness are the fundamental keys to achieving self-love. Wearing an outfit that makes you feel good, getting a hair done, without needing a big event, makes all the difference. When you look in the mirror and like what you see, confidence increases, and self-esteem takes a big leap. In addition to appearance, it is important to take care of your well-being, do what makes you happy, take time to do what you like, read a book, rest, take a walk, whether with friends or even alone. The most important thing is to have fun, giving yourself time to make a difference makes all the difference.
6) Stop thinking too much
Rather than thinking about a situation, it is better to act. Move around, do something new, something to change, for the better. Getting out of thought, moving is synonymous with evolution, it is the most important step for the change you want.
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